What to Say When Your Child Shows You a Drawing
"What is it?" isn't the best question. Learn what to say when your child shows you a drawing, with phrases that build confidence, language and connection.
When your child shows you a drawing, start with "Tell me about it" instead of "What is it?" Then notice something specific, ask a follow-up question and show you value it. These simple responses build confidence, language and connection.
A child holding out a drawing is offering you something. How you respond tells them whether their ideas matter. It only takes a moment to respond in a way that makes them want to keep drawing and talking.
Why "What is it?" can backfire
If you guess wrong, or ask what something is, kids can feel their drawing failed. "Tell me about it" lets them explain without feeling judged.
Great things to say
- "Tell me about your drawing."
- "I see you used lots of blue here."
- "This part looks like it took a lot of work."
- "What is happening in this picture?"
- "What made you think of this?"
- "Can you show me how you drew that?"
Notice details
Specific comments show you really looked:
- "His teeth are so pointy!"
- "You drew every single spot."
- "I love how the monster's eyes are different sizes."
Monster conversations
Monsters are great conversation starters because every monster has a personality. After your child draws one from How to Draw: Cute Cartoon Monsters, ask: "What's his name? What does he eat? Is he friendly? What makes him laugh?" You will learn a lot about your child's imagination.
Follow their lead
If they want to talk, listen. If they just want you to see it, a smile and "I love that you made this" is enough. Not every drawing needs a conversation.
Show you value it
- Hang it up.
- Ask if you can keep it.
- Take a photo.
- Share it with family.
For more, see how to praise your child's drawings.
Questions parents ask
What should I say when my child shows me a drawing?
Try "Tell me about it," notice something specific and ask a follow-up question. Avoid guessing what it is.
Why shouldn't I ask "What is it?"
It can make children feel their drawing was not clear. "Tell me about it" invites them to explain without judgement.
How do I show my child I value their art?
Hang it up, ask to keep it, take photos and share it with family members.
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